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Katy · Joined: 16 Aug 2007 Posts: 1

Dear Group-
I just had another miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I had one in July 2001 (5
weeks along) and one in December 2001 (12 weeks along), afterwhich I
spent a lot of time at this site reading all the posted letters, and
remembered that Janet and all the other ladies really helped me at
that time, so I thought I would come back.
This time I was 14 weeks pregnant when I lost my baby. I new right
away that I was pregnant so it seems that I knew the baby the entire
14 weeks. My doctor knew about my miscarriages before, but said that
I had a lot of good signs and I shouldn't worry. I had the
ultra/sonograms done. I had horrible morning sickness and they said
that my horomone levels were high. I saw the baby's heartbeat at 7
weeks and heard it then as well. All of those were 'good signs'.
Then, at another appointment weeks later, the nurse practionar had a
heard time seeing the baby's heartbeat. She said they have an older
machine and to go later that week to a different place. On last
Friday I went to have another sonogram done and there was no more
heartbeat. It was horrible knowing that my baby had been alive with a
heartbeat and everything one minute, then didn't the next minute.
I am really having a difficult time with this one. I thought
everything was going great, and I was even past the 12 week mark and
was in my second trimester. Now I don't understand what happened. I
am really confused now and have been told that the chances of me
having a live birth are not great. I have a 20% chance right now. I
am 24 years old and I know that I have a lot of time to get pregnant
and try for babies, but each time it seems to get harder- not easier.
I thought I would sort of get used to miscarrying, but this time is
worse. This is also hard on my husband and he isn't sure if we could
handle getting pregnant and miscarrying again and again.
I was wondering if anyone else has had this happen to them, and if
they have had any luck having a baby. Also, any suggestions are more
than welcomed as well.
Thank you-
Katy

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Janet Sackman · Joined: 15 Aug 2007 Posts: 120

((((((((((Katy)))))))))))

Oh my goodness I am *so* sorry to hear that you've lost another baby, that
is just so devastating. My heart goes out to you that you're going through
this again. It must have been wonderful to have had 14 precious weeks being
pregnant and yet I can also imagine how stressful they were as well.

Now that you've had three miscarriages you are eligible for testing for
recurrent miscarriage. There are many tests that can be done to try to find
out if there is an underlying cause although for some couple no cause is
ever found. There is so much that is unknown about what causes our babies to
die, whilst there is also lots that has been found out and treatments
available. I would certainly suggest that you look for a specialist who can
help you now.

How have you got through this tragic loss?

Love and hugs

Janet
co-moderator, soc.support.pregnancy.loss

"Katy" wrote in message@posting.google.com...
> Dear Group-
> I just had another miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I had one in July 2001 (5
> weeks along) and one in December 2001 (12 weeks along), afterwhich I
> spent a lot of time at this site reading all the posted letters, and
> remembered that Janet and all the other ladies really helped me at
> that time, so I thought I would come back.
> This time I was 14 weeks pregnant when I lost my baby. I new right
> away that I was pregnant so it seems that I knew the baby the entire
> 14 weeks. My doctor knew about my miscarriages before, but said that
> I had a lot of good signs and I shouldn't worry. I had the
> ultra/sonograms done. I had horrible morning sickness and they said
> that my horomone levels were high. I saw the baby's heartbeat at 7
> weeks and heard it then as well. All of those were 'good signs'.
> Then, at another appointment weeks later, the nurse practionar had a
> heard time seeing the baby's heartbeat. She said they have an older
> machine and to go later that week to a different place. On last
> Friday I went to have another sonogram done and there was no more
> heartbeat. It was horrible knowing that my baby had been alive with a
> heartbeat and everything one minute, then didn't the next minute.
> I am really having a difficult time with this one. I thought
> everything was going great, and I was even past the 12 week mark and
> was in my second trimester. Now I don't understand what happened. I
> am really confused now and have been told that the chances of me
> having a live birth are not great. I have a 20% chance right now. I
> am 24 years old and I know that I have a lot of time to get pregnant
> and try for babies, but each time it seems to get harder- not easier.
> I thought I would sort of get used to miscarrying, but this time is
> worse. This is also hard on my husband and he isn't sure if we could
> handle getting pregnant and miscarrying again and again.
> I was wondering if anyone else has had this happen to them, and if
> they have had any luck having a baby. Also, any suggestions are more
> than welcomed as well.
> Thank you-
> Katy
>

MJ Tam · Joined: 16 Aug 2007 Posts: 1

Hi Katy,

I had 2 miscarriages-- 1st one Dec.2003, and another one just this past July
2004. The second time around was much tougher than the first one. Mine too
had a heartbeat at first and actually had to see it get slower and slower
every week and although I was hoping and hoping I was told that it would've
taken a miracle for the heartbeat to go back to normal.

I am now 35 and hoping to get pregnant again by July of 2005. I have 2
wonder lil' boys at home that keeps me grounded and a wonderful husband.
I'm praying for your success in trying again. Don't lose hope!

:-)MJ

"Katy" wrote in message@posting.google.com...
> Dear Group-
> I just had another miscarriage 2 weeks ago. I had one in July 2001 (5
> weeks along) and one in December 2001 (12 weeks along), afterwhich I
> spent a lot of time at this site reading all the posted letters, and
> remembered that Janet and all the other ladies really helped me at
> that time, so I thought I would come back.
> This time I was 14 weeks pregnant when I lost my baby. I new right
> away that I was pregnant so it seems that I knew the baby the entire
> 14 weeks. My doctor knew about my miscarriages before, but said that
> I had a lot of good signs and I shouldn't worry. I had the
> ultra/sonograms done. I had horrible morning sickness and they said
> that my horomone levels were high. I saw the baby's heartbeat at 7
> weeks and heard it then as well. All of those were 'good signs'.
> Then, at another appointment weeks later, the nurse practionar had a
> heard time seeing the baby's heartbeat. She said they have an older
> machine and to go later that week to a different place. On last
> Friday I went to have another sonogram done and there was no more
> heartbeat. It was horrible knowing that my baby had been alive with a
> heartbeat and everything one minute, then didn't the next minute.
> I am really having a difficult time with this one. I thought
> everything was going great, and I was even past the 12 week mark and
> was in my second trimester. Now I don't understand what happened. I
> am really confused now and have been told that the chances of me
> having a live birth are not great. I have a 20% chance right now. I
> am 24 years old and I know that I have a lot of time to get pregnant
> and try for babies, but each time it seems to get harder- not easier.
> I thought I would sort of get used to miscarrying, but this time is
> worse. This is also hard on my husband and he isn't sure if we could
> handle getting pregnant and miscarrying again and again.
> I was wondering if anyone else has had this happen to them, and if
> they have had any luck having a baby. Also, any suggestions are more
> than welcomed as well.
> Thank you-
> Katy
>