Teenagers are seldom disrespectful without a reason, because every
child wants to be loved and valued. They would not risk their feeling
of security and inclusion for the sake of it. The following are the
most common reasons for disrespect, especially when:

1. They feel unloved, unwanted and misunderstood. This is the main
reason why teens go off the rails and behave badly. This is their way
of getting back and hurting the parent for the lack of worth they
feel. They do not have a strong sense of value and so the respect
goes. Their behaviour is more like retaliation and revenge for not
feeling loved and appreciated. Kids need to be shown love and
affection daily. A simple hug, a kind word and positive reinforcement
are essential to show value and appreciation and increase the teen's
feeling of security and self-worth.

2. They are not affirmed or reinforced, but mainly criticised; their
views and feelings are not respected either. This often happens in
strict homes where there is too much discipline, too little slack and
too many expectations which the teens find difficult to fulfil. They
have no way of thriving as their own individual and the frustration is
evident in disrespectful behaviour.

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