Finally got up the nerve (baby loss mentioned)

Kel · Joined: 15 Aug 2007 Posts: 5

I finally got up the nerve to write this.
After 3 years of IF and 3 IVF's my DH and I became pregnant with a
boy. We named him Nicholas. The pregnancy was perfect, I worked
right up until my water broke and felt great, I went into labour at 37
weeks on November 13, 2007 (full-term) and during the last five
minutes of pushing our beautiful baby boy's umbilical cord got
compressed between his shoulder and my pelvis. When Nicholas arrived
he was absolutely perfect but he no longer had any brain activity, the
damage done was that severe. He was with us for 37 hours and he died
on November 14th. Needless to say are devastated. We took two months
off of work and are just now starting to live again. We still cry
everyday.
We have two frozen embyos left from the cycle that gave us Nicholas
and we are planning a FET in June.
Thank you for listening, it feels good to be able to tell people about
him. I am now in a support group like this one called spals that is
helping me cope.
Love to all of you,
Kel

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lilyaipg · Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 92

On 21 Jan., 21:54, Kel wrote:
> I finally got up the nerve to write this.
> After 3 years of IF and 3 IVF's my DH and I became pregnant with a
> boy. We named him Nicholas. The pregnancy was perfect, I worked
> right up until my water broke and felt great, I went into labour at 37
> weeks on November 13, 2007 (full-term) and during the last five
> minutes of pushing our beautiful baby boy's umbilical cord got
> compressed between his shoulder and my pelvis. When Nicholas arrived
> he was absolutely perfect but he no longer had any brain activity, the
> damage done was that severe. He was with us for 37 hours and he died
> on November 14th. Needless to say are devastated. We took two months
> off of work and are just now starting to live again. We still cry
> everyday.
> We have two frozen embyos left from the cycle that gave us Nicholas
> and we are planning a FET in June.
> Thank you for listening, it feels good to be able to tell people about
> him. I am now in a support group like this one called spals that is
> helping me cope.
> Love to all of you,
> Kel

Oh Kel,

I don't know what to say, I am so so sorry this happened....
Please know you will be in my prayers, I cannot even imagine the pain
you are going thru..
I am wishing you strength to get thru this..
I am so sorry
lily

Cindi - HappyMamatoThree · Joined: 15 Aug 2007 Posts: 740

"Kel" wrote in message @i7g2000prf.googlegroups.com...
>I finally got up the nerve to write this.
> After 3 years of IF and 3 IVF's my DH and I became pregnant with a
> boy. We named him Nicholas. The pregnancy was perfect, I worked
> right up until my water broke and felt great, I went into labour at 37
> weeks on November 13, 2007 (full-term) and during the last five
> minutes of pushing our beautiful baby boy's umbilical cord got
> compressed between his shoulder and my pelvis. When Nicholas arrived
> he was absolutely perfect but he no longer had any brain activity, the
> damage done was that severe. He was with us for 37 hours and he died
> on November 14th. Needless to say are devastated. We took two months
> off of work and are just now starting to live again. We still cry
> everyday.
> We have two frozen embyos left from the cycle that gave us Nicholas
> and we are planning a FET in June.
> Thank you for listening, it feels good to be able to tell people about
> him. I am now in a support group like this one called spals that is
> helping me cope.
> Love to all of you,

oh Kell.

This just breaks my heart. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you had a
little time with him but it was so short, tooooo short. I hope that your two
months of healing together have given you a better connection to each other
and a safe time to grieve. I know that having to get back into life will
only bring back memories of hopes and dreams, but it will get easier I am
sure.

With your FET coming in June I hope that the grief can begin to heal and
your joy and excitement at becoming parents can take over.

There is a lot of support here, don't be afraid to ask for it.

Cindi

> Kel

yaelweiss01 · Joined: 17 Nov 2007 Posts: 53

Hi Kel,
I'm so very sorry for your loss -- I can't even fathom how you must be
feeling...
You will always mourn him, as with all those that we love who pass on,
but hopefully will recapture that joy with a new baby soon.
*hugggggzzz*
Yael

On Jan 21, 3:54 pm, Kel wrote:
> I finally got up the nerve to write this.
> After 3 years of IF and 3 IVF's my DH and I became pregnant with a
> boy. We named him Nicholas. The pregnancy was perfect, I worked
> right up until my water broke and felt great, I went into labour at 37
> weeks on November 13, 2007 (full-term) and during the last five
> minutes of pushing our beautiful baby boy's umbilical cord got
> compressed between his shoulder and my pelvis. When Nicholas arrived
> he was absolutely perfect but he no longer had any brain activity, the
> damage done was that severe. He was with us for 37 hours and he died
> on November 14th. Needless to say are devastated. We took two months
> off of work and are just now starting to live again. We still cry
> everyday.
> We have two frozen embyos left from the cycle that gave us Nicholas
> and we are planning a FET in June.
> Thank you for listening, it feels good to be able to tell people about
> him. I am now in a support group like this one called spals that is
> helping me cope.
> Love to all of you,
> Kel

mar66rus2 · Joined: 15 Aug 2007 Posts: 113

On Jan 21, 3:54 pm, Kel wrote:
> I finally got up the nerve to write this.
> After 3 years of IF and 3 IVF's my DH and I became pregnant with a
> boy. We named him Nicholas. The pregnancy was perfect, I worked
> right up until my water broke and felt great, I went into labour at 37
> weeks on November 13, 2007 (full-term) and during the last five
> minutes of pushing our beautiful baby boy's umbilical cord got
> compressed between his shoulder and my pelvis. When Nicholas arrived
> he was absolutely perfect but he no longer had any brain activity, the
> damage done was that severe. He was with us for 37 hours and he died
> on November 14th. Needless to say are devastated. We took two months
> off of work and are just now starting to live again. We still cry
> everyday.
> We have two frozen embyos left from the cycle that gave us Nicholas
> and we are planning a FET in June.
> Thank you for listening, it feels good to be able to tell people about
> him. I am now in a support group like this one called spals that is
> helping me cope.
> Love to all of you,
> Kel

I am sooo sorry about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with
you.

April

Jewelbar · Joined: 28 Sep 2007 Posts: 137

I'm so sorry. I'm so, so, sorry.
My prayers are with you.
:0(
Jade.

"Kel" wrote in message @i7g2000prf.googlegroups.com...
>I finally got up the nerve to write this.
> After 3 years of IF and 3 IVF's my DH and I became pregnant with a
> boy. We named him Nicholas. The pregnancy was perfect, I worked
> right up until my water broke and felt great, I went into labour at 37
> weeks on November 13, 2007 (full-term) and during the last five
> minutes of pushing our beautiful baby boy's umbilical cord got
> compressed between his shoulder and my pelvis. When Nicholas arrived
> he was absolutely perfect but he no longer had any brain activity, the
> damage done was that severe. He was with us for 37 hours and he died
> on November 14th. Needless to say are devastated. We took two months
> off of work and are just now starting to live again. We still cry
> everyday.
> We have two frozen embyos left from the cycle that gave us Nicholas
> and we are planning a FET in June.
> Thank you for listening, it feels good to be able to tell people about
> him. I am now in a support group like this one called spals that is
> helping me cope.
> Love to all of you,
> Kel

April · Joined: 15 Aug 2007 Posts: 157

I am so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine the sorrow you must feel.
Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

April
Mommy to Abby (10-02)

"Kel" wrote in message @i7g2000prf.googlegroups.com...
>I finally got up the nerve to write this.
> After 3 years of IF and 3 IVF's my DH and I became pregnant with a
> boy. We named him Nicholas. The pregnancy was perfect, I worked
> right up until my water broke and felt great, I went into labour at 37
> weeks on November 13, 2007 (full-term) and during the last five
> minutes of pushing our beautiful baby boy's umbilical cord got
> compressed between his shoulder and my pelvis. When Nicholas arrived
> he was absolutely perfect but he no longer had any brain activity, the
> damage done was that severe. He was with us for 37 hours and he died
> on November 14th. Needless to say are devastated. We took two months
> off of work and are just now starting to live again. We still cry
> everyday.
> We have two frozen embyos left from the cycle that gave us Nicholas
> and we are planning a FET in June.
> Thank you for listening, it feels good to be able to tell people about
> him. I am now in a support group like this one called spals that is
> helping me cope.
> Love to all of you,
> Kel

Holly F. Sox, RN, RAC-CT · Joined: 15 Aug 2007 Posts: 72

Oh Kel,

I cannot express how sorry I am that you and your family have to go through
this. Please know you'll be in my prayers for a long time.

love

Holly

lkl1008 · Joined: 15 Aug 2007 Posts: 403

There are no words. I will keep you all in my thoughts. -Leighann